Zone In - November 08
Issue One
Hello,
Welcome to the first issue of Zone In, the monthly ezine from The Coaching Zone. At The Coaching Zone we specialise in coaching for personal and business lives, Zone In will feature tips and hints to reaching your potential and living the life you choose. If you have any ideas, suggestions or comments for Zone In please drop me a line, I’d love to hear from you. You will have received this ezine by either opting in via the website www.thecoachingzone.co.uk or you are one of a select group of contacts I have handpicked to receive Zone In as I think you’ll like it and find it informative. If you would rather not be included please just click on the unsubscribe link below (no hard feelings – I promise!)
Thanks,
Sue Bown
In Confidence!
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Here’s my top confidence tips – designed to immediately raise your self-esteem.
Evaluate the cost in time of doing something before you say yes. How many times do you agree to do something without fully evaluating the true cost to you? In this busy world where time is so valuable and so lacking for many of us, I frequently find that women, especially, give up their precious time too easily and too readily without considering the impact to themselves. They forget that each time they commit to something or make a promise to someone else; perhaps their children or their partner, there is a personal cost to themselves. Therefore by saying ‘yes’ they will have to say ‘no’ to something that is important for their own happiness. Each time they give they may resent themselves for doing this and continuing this will create lowered self esteem, lack of confidence and even resentment. Therefore I encourage my client’s to ask themselves the question 'if I say yes to that, what am I saying no to?' This gives a new perspective on making decisions and gives you chance to find the value for you. Maybe the cost is too high and what appears like a good turn causes problems all round.
Accept compliments with a ‘Thank-you’! When someone gives you a compliment, accept it, stand tall and enjoy the feeling of someone noticing something good about you. Often it’s easy to deflect a compliment with an excuse or a reason, instead, stop, listen, and hear yourself say thanks, you’ll feel great for doing it. Oh and so will the person who gave you the compliment too!
Make an ‘I like myself because’ list. Give yourself 30 minutes, make a cuppa, sit down, relax and make a list of ten things that are great about you! Start your list with ‘I’m great because’ and fill in the rest. If you find it hard to get started, let me give you a hint for the first one. ‘I like myself because I’ve taken time to stop and focus on me’.
Stand or sit tall. Hunched, rounded posture is not good for our bodies, neither is it good for making us feel good about ourselves. So whatever you’re doing now, put those shoulders back, sit or stand tall and feel your confidence level improve instantly.
Stop saying ‘sorry’ Sorry is the most overused word. Before you say sorry really consider if you have done something that warrants an apology or is it just a habit. Did you really do something wrong, do you really have to pile the blame on you for everything that happens. Talk to people, say something – does it really have to be ‘sorry’.
At the end of every day take a few private minutes to reflect on what when well in the day. If some things didn’t go so well, ask yourself what you could have done to handle it better and make a promise that next time it’ll be OK. Then, settle down and give yourself permission for a great night’s sleep.
What is NLP?
Sounds a bit complicated doesn’t it? NLP, or in full Neuro Linguistic Programming is all about how we communicate to each other and to ourselves – and how that communication creates and affects our behaviour. As a coach, NLP gives me fast effective tools that help my clients move forward quickly and to change old behaviour patterns that no longer serve or are not useful. Where else can you find a process that in a short space of time can change your thoughts to:
- Fix a phobia
- Lose weight
- Stop smoking
- Improve relationships
Why not give it a try, contact me to book a free NLP Discovery Session.
It’s that time of year
As the leaves are falling and the nights get longer it’s an ideal time to ask yourself what do you want from your life? Are you busy living at the effect of everything going on around you? Are you too busy for time for yourself? Just imagine what you could achieve by focusing on what you really want in life? Does this sound like you? If so, ask yourself the following questions:
- Could I start to act 'as if' I already had this longed for goal already? For example if I want to be happier, can I be happy right now?
- Am I ready for success and results?
- What are my greatest challenges to getting to my goal?
- What can I do this week to start to move me towards my goal?
- What do I regularly do that doesn't serve me?
When you have the answers to these questions, write down some steps you could take to start achieving these changes right now. You'll instantly feel better by taking action.
Sue Bown, The Coaching Zone
email: sue@thecoachingzone.co.uk
Tel: 07802 177180